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I feel like it is really important that I stress that we can achieve more by working together than against each other. I was really blessed to be in an honours class [B.Sc] with the people I was placed with. From the onset we studied together and we helped each other understand the content of the work. We were not competing against each other; rather each individual was trying to surpass their personal best. I’ve often watched friendships crumble and die in some circles because people stopped working together. It’s sad.
I believe that we are all different and have been endowed with talents that are unique to each one. I think the reason for that is so that we can learn to exist in mutually beneficial associations. Clearly speaking, we need to help each other.
This is even truer if you are female like me. It seems that men and other females try to stay away from female friendships involving women because there is an understanding that all we do is work to ensure each other’s demise. How often have you seen a singular girl hang out with a bunch of men!? I’m not saying that this association is wrong but there are very few female cliques that are not riddled with secret desires to bring a member of the gang down. That is why most girly cliques have a handful of members.
I’m not advocating that you girls go out and make the circle bigger. I am advocating that you work together. Life is so much better when you don’t have to worry about a butter knife stuck between your vertebrae. Life is so full of joy when you know that your friend is really pleased with your achievements and not actually muttering a voodoo spell under her pearly whites. Life is worth living when you have people to confide in, who encourage you, laugh with you, cry with you and laugh with you.
I believe that as women we can do this. It’s inherent in our natures. What do you say?
I have had my figures burnt many a time in female relationships. It just turned out that because we females open up to each other, others use this as an opportunity to use your confidence in order to plot your demise. Like I have said a few weeks back ,I really don’t have friends. When I don’t email or Skype Unathi I never make social contacts with any other females. Yes in my team there are three other ladies ,but when I knock off or over the weekend I never call any females to speak to. The other day in fact , Babalo and I were having a debate about drinking. He said he would have a few beers when he goes to meet his friends, not to get drunk but to socialise. So I say to him, “I don’t drink and I can still socialise” So he just laughed at me. I was like???? ‘But sweets, you don’t have friends”. So i don’t have any female relationships anymore to avoid the drama, the lies, and constant the gossiping. We need to form strong empowering unions with other females who have one agenda – to empower other females. To support each other in time or need and despair.
ReplyDeletewow Yoyo... i understand where you are coming from. i also have a handful of ladies that i would condiser friends. and the strange thing is that most of these dear friends are not in the same city as i am. so i communicate with them electronically. i wish we were in the same place, but that is just a dream... for now :)
ReplyDeletei'm also baffled and not quite sure what it is about women that get them to be so catty... we can do so much better when we support each other.