“Am feeling this guy”

So I had this thought this morning. I couldn’t sleep, since Wednesday I have had a sore ear. I didn’t want to go to an ENT so I resorted to taking a concoction of tablets, around 05h00 the effect wears off and my mind started wondering. Ok... like I was saying, I had a thought this morning about the way men and women view sex.

I know that women have to have some feelings towards a guy to have sex with them. On the hand men will have sex because they can, coz he feels like it and he will pretend like it never happened the following day.

So the question that I ask some colleagues this morning is “What happens when you meet a guy/ girl and you like them or feel strongly about them and on that day decide to have sex?”

“Thaphelo” says it’s a big NO NO... The day after, guys will think the chick is cheap, easy; loose... her number is kept, just in case you need her “services” again. I did change in the face when he said that, was he the only guy who thought that or was it a general male feeling.

Thankfully it’s not all men ... Ok so “ Mandla” thinks if he likes a girl enough he would do the do the first day he meets her and it would make him feel good because he knows she was into him. He says there are no guarantees if you wait for 6 months to have sex that a guy will not leave. A guy will leave if he hadn’t intended on staying in the first place. The long and short of it is if you like someone enough it shouldn’t matter when sleep with them.

So I spoke to the ladies. ‘ Mathaphelo” and “ Mandy” wore frowns on their faces when I asked the question. The whole idea was dirty to them. Why would one willingly put themselves in such a horrible position?

‘Thula” and ‘ Sipho” start giggling and as if begin queued say “hell yes” If you like someone why not. Life is too short not to take risks. So what if he leaves and more importantly what if he stays and you end up in a long loving relationship. Are you will to risk that?...

Women VS Honesty

It is very hard sometimes to hear the true. When for example, you ask your man “does my bum look big in these jeans?" I really don’t think any lady wants the honest answer that " Yes you bum is big baby" Am sure you would lose it. Take the DStv ad in this link. The lady lost it when her man was honest with him. I myself dare to ask the question to my man. He is honest with him because he knows I will never over react. I respect his opinion when it comes to what I look it. And for the most part all other areas that affect us. So ladies only ask for the answer if you are willing to hear and accept the answer.